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The Power of Expectation

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The Power of Expectation

Rob Parnell

Isn't it funny how, if you expect everything to go badly, it usually does?

But what if you always expected everything to go well?

Does that make you a Pollyanna - or a resourceful creative artist?

Fact is, we all take risks in our lives at some point or another.

We might decide to start a new business - or write a novel, or marry someone!

All risks entail the possibility of failure. But if we always thought that risk would lead to disaster, we'd never leave our beds in the morning!

You don't need to be some new age airhead to understand that if you believe that things will turn out for the best, you're giving yourself a fighting chance at success.

We often get what we focus on. You know that's true.

If you focus on how little money for have, you stay poor.

If you're convinced your partner doesn't understand you, your relationship gets worse.

Whenever you say or even think that you're not up to a job - shazam - you're suddenly incapable of finishing it.

But people with blind faith can often achieve things most folks regard as impossible or impractical or unlikely to succeed, purely because they don't dwell on the negative.

Starting a new project is a case in point.

You have to be full of energy and optimism to to begin a new project.

Otherwise you won't bother. The new project usually has to mean something to you - deep down and personally - to give it the necessary impetus for you to continue.

And the impetus is what keeps you pushing to succeed.

I don't think it's as simple as just believing makes it so. Although it would be nice if things worked this way.

I think it's more obvious than that.

Basically if you expect to succeed and you believe that your success is inevitable, you'll simply try a lot harder!

Imagine if someone told you that underneath a rock on a beach there was a diamond worth millions.

If you believed that person, you'd look under every darn rock until you found it!

But if you suspected that the person might be lying to you - or was delusional. you might look under half a dozen rocks just in case and then think better of it.

I think this is the way it works for success - in anything.

If you totally believe that success and wealth is inevitable, you'll do everything in your power to make it happen!

Sometimes these things just take time - and more work!

Like having a business succeed. Most businesses need around three years to prove that the entrepreneur was right about the business idea. Or for the business to keep innovating until it finds its niche.

Writing a book can take a lot longer than you first imagined - but you need to believe it will do well once it's written - or that you're going to feel fabulous about yourself - in order to keep persevering with it.

And any marriage needs time to settle down and mature and deepen. The initial rush of love and lust might fade but unless you commit to the idea that unceasing love and compromise in a relationship will eventually make things perfect, you're not going to bother.

And most people don't these days - 50% of marriages fail because we don't believe that happiness is possible without the 'perfect' partner.

Nine out of ten would be novelists give up.

And four out of five new businesses fail.


Because, as a species, we often lack appropriate expectation.

You have to believe in what you're doing. You have to believe that your projects will turn out well. You need to trust your decisions. And know that your intuition is always right.

Fear of failure is not your intuition talking. It's the logical sceptical mind that makes you doubt things. Your instinct is more primitive, less discerning.

Total unfailing belief in inevitable success seems irrational...

But is it?

Not if you ask consistently lucky and successful people!

They see success as part of their modus operandi.

They know that with enough work, tenacity and action based on feedback, even if that means changing strategy or having the courage to scrap a bad idea, their plans will always lead to positive, life enhancing results.

It's just a question of perspective.

And the correct perspective is seeing the world as a place where anything is possible and that YOU are capable of achieving whatever you want!

That's the power of expectation.

You need to rely on the fact that everything will turn out for the best because you BELIEVE that it will.

Not because your belief makes success happen. But because your belief in the inevitability of resulting good things makes you more persistent in your desire to get to a positive end result!

So don't dream about a life full of wealth and success and happiness!

Expect it!

Keep Writing!
 rob at home
"If I live I ought to speak my mind." Benjamin Jowett

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