Thursday, January 7, 2010

New Year - New Stuff

Rob Parnell

Do you spend this time of year thinking about all the things you HAVEN'T done?

I do. Take this morning - I woke up dreaming about a fiction project I'd forgotten I started a couple of years ago.

What is wrong with me, I thought. I never seem to stop and congratulate myself over the things I have done - only punish myself for projects left undone. Is this just me - or is this part of the human condition?

Are we destined to forever yearn for completion? To regard ourselves and our goals as neverending works in progress?

I suppose so.

I read some Wayne W Dyer recently - actually his book, The Power of Intention, a terrific read by the way.

His theory is that at the center of things - from the molecules (more correctly called quarks) that make up matter, to the force that runs the Universe - there is an inherent property within all things called 'intention'. His idea is that this 'God' force is what makes everything and everyone move towards its/their destiny.

I found it interesting that the same thought had occured to me a while back. I even wrote an article about it some time ago here.

While I saw it as a dimension separate from our own that kind of pulls us along and, in a sense, shows us the way, Wayne Dyer sees it as an innate quality in everything. An acorn in some way contains the oak it will grow into for instance. And a baby somehow contains the superstar she may become.

In Wayne's world (f'nar f'nar), we all have a great destiny written into our intention. The problem being that most of us never manage to accept that we are destined to be advanced 'spiritual' beings easily capable of shaping the universe and our lives with our thoughts.

It's true of course.

We are capable of creating any kind of life we want - as long as we believe it. And that's the stumbling block for most of us.

Actually believing our lives can change just because we want them to seems counter to logic in our deeply rational, materialistic view of the world and how it works. And yet...

It's obvious when we look back, that we have the life we created.

All of those little decisions we made led to this moment in time.

It can't be coincidence and happenstance - because we all know people who have dealt with similar circumstances to our own and ended up in different places. So logically, there has to be something unique that led us to our own current reality.

And surely that unique thing is us.

Only we could have reacted in a particular way - and led us to our unique space, now.

I get a lot of emails from people who feel stuck, frustrated and apparently unable to change their circumstance.

I'm sympathetic. I spent a couple of decades feeling the same way.

Until I discovered... myself.

It sounds crass but it's true.

At the moment I stopped listening to other people, my life changed.

I woke up one day and realized the only thing that was really important to my sanity and my well-being was what I alone wanted.

I finally understood that if I didn't achieve what I wanted first - if I wasn't happy, in other words - then I would never be of any use to anyone else - my partner, my kids, the world, everyone.

And at that moment I deliberately stopped taking any notice of what the media, my family and friends, said was possible and just did what I thought was right for me.

English people - with an upbringing that is not focussed on ego and self aggrandizement - have trouble with the concept of loving ourselves. It seems, well, a bit disturbing.

But I guess there's no better way of putting it. Because if you love yourself, or at least try to, and you put yourself, your health and your well being first, then you become a stronger, happier, more authentic and intention oriented person.

And only then can you really begin to start on your life's real purpose which is, yes, I'm afraid so, to help others.

Writing a great book or novel is not actually a selfish act. Think of all the joy and inspiration you yourself have experienced when you've read a great writer's book.

There are a million and one ways to help people, to help the planet and to help move us as a species towards our completion - in reality a neverending quest.

But remember that - especially at this time of year - in order to really help others, you must help yourself first.

Make a list of your goals, work out what you really want - for yourself - and go for it in 2010!

Keep Writing!


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New Year - New Stuff

Rob Parnell

Do you spend this time of year thinking about all the things you HAVEN'T done?

I do. Take this morning - I woke up dreaming about a fiction project I'd forgotten I started a couple of years ago.

What is wrong with me, I thought. I never seem to stop and congratulate myself over the things I have done - only punish myself for projects left undone. Is this just me - or is this part of the human condition?

Are we destined to forever yearn for completion? To regard ourselves and our goals as neverending works in progress?

I suppose so.

I read some Wayne W Dyer recently - actually his book, The Power of Intention, a terrific read by the way.

His theory is that at the center of things - from the molecules (more correctly called quarks) that make up matter, to the force that runs the Universe - there is an inherent property within all things called 'intention'. His idea is that this 'God' force is what makes everything and everyone move towards its/their destiny.

I found it interesting that the same thought had occured to me a while back. I even wrote an article about it some time ago here.

While I saw it as a dimension separate from our own that kind of pulls us along and, in a sense, shows us the way, Wayne Dyer sees it as an innate quality in everything. An acorn in some way contains the oak it will grow into for instance. And a baby somehow contains the superstar she may become.

In Wayne's world (f'nar f'nar), we all have a great destiny written into our intention. The problem being that most of us never manage to accept that we are destined to be advanced 'spiritual' beings easily capable of shaping the universe and our lives with our thoughts.

It's true of course.

We are capable of creating any kind of life we want - as long as we believe it. And that's the stumbling block for most of us.

Actually believing our lives can change just because we want them to seems counter to logic in our deeply rational, materialistic view of the world and how it works. And yet...

It's obvious when we look back, that we have the life we created.

All of those little decisions we made led to this moment in time.

It can't be coincidence and happenstance - because we all know people who have dealt with similar circumstances to our own and ended up in different places. So logically, there has to be something unique that led us to our own current reality.

And surely that unique thing is us.

Only we could have reacted in a particular way - and led us to our unique space, now.

I get a lot of emails from people who feel stuck, frustrated and apparently unable to change their circumstance.

I'm sympathetic. I spent a couple of decades feeling the same way.

Until I discovered... myself.

It sounds crass but it's true.

At the moment I stopped listening to other people, my life changed.

I woke up one day and realized the only thing that was really important to my sanity and my well-being was what I alone wanted.

I finally understood that if I didn't achieve what I wanted first - if I wasn't happy, in other words - then I would never be of any use to anyone else - my partner, my kids, the world, everyone.

And at that moment I deliberately stopped taking any notice of what the media, my family and friends, said was possible and just did what I thought was right for me.

English people - with an upbringing that is not focussed on ego and self aggrandizement - have trouble with the concept of loving ourselves. It seems, well, a bit disturbing.

But I guess there's no better way of putting it. Because if you love yourself, or at least try to, and you put yourself, your health and your well being first, then you become a stronger, happier, more authentic and intention oriented person.

And only then can you really begin to start on your life's real purpose which is, yes, I'm afraid so, to help others.

Writing a great book or novel is not actually a selfish act. Think of all the joy and inspiration you yourself have experienced when you've read a great writer's book.

There are a million and one ways to help people, to help the planet and to help move us as a species towards our completion - in reality a neverending quest.

But remember that - especially at this time of year - in order to really help others, you must help yourself first.

Make a list of your goals, work out what you really want - for yourself - and go for it in 2010!

Keep Writing!

rob@easywaytowrite.com
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